My dearest Catherine,
You bought a house! Holy shit, you are like a full fledged grown up person with a mortgage and shit.
I always like when people make big strides in life because it reminds my how I basically am going to forever channel my inner Peter Pan….
No but seriously, I am so proud of you! You’re doing it!
So, the other day someone I know came to me for some relationship advice because, I am the fucking guru of giving great advice 🙂
Anyway, so this person, she-who-will-not-be-named, wanted advice and it really got me thinking about life and choices and I came to this conclusion.
Life it short.
Your life could literally end tomorrow.
The MOST important things you have on this planet are your relationships.
So put effort into them.
Do what makes you happy.
And here is what I think about mistakes. Just try not to make life ENDING ones.
I think it’s ok if you get married and divorced and married and divorced again.
I think it’s ok if you lose your job and have to move home.
Just avoid the life ENDING mistakes.
Don’t do too many drugs or drink too much, or have a bunch of unprotected sex or smoke (and if you want to realize what will happen when you do and don’t complain when the inevitable happens) and if you do that, you will be ok.
Everything works out ok.
If you are unhappy, change it.
If you want a better job, go get one.
I think people put way too much thought into life.
You got to eat, and have shelter, but at the end of it all, it’s how you are as a person.
Care about people. Be kind to people. Love your spouse and your children and your neighbors and everyone you meet.
The world desperately needs that.
If you want to drop out of school and travel..fucking do it.
If you want to get a tattoo on your face (don’t do this please…)
(that’s one of those mistakes where you may have to realize you’ll never get a job ever….try not to make permanent mistakes as well)
A heartbreak is temporary so go for it.
Love with all you fucking have.
You know those stories of those people who met and got married two weeks later and have been together for fifty years?
Those people are who you should aspire to be.
Live your life, not recklessly; I am not saying that. But live your life with love and passion with all that you do.
Do not be afraid to make a mistake. You can always dust yourself off and learn and go onto the next mistake.
You are not defined by what degree you have or what school you went to or how much money you have or how big your house is or how many people you have slept with or how many tattoos you have or who you love, you are defined by your character, how you treat people and how kind you are.
I am going to life my life so that when I am die one day, if anyone shows up to my funeral, they’re not saying “Well I bet she left behind a lot of money”
I hope they are saying “Remember when she said this? Remember when did that? She was the kindest person I knew”
Love you, I hope you are living it up in your new house 🙂